Return to Masculinity
I write for myself and no one else
Having just read No More Mr. Nice Guy, I was baffled on how closely aligned my life was to that of some of the men in the book. I'll admit that when I first heard the title of the book that I thought it was going to be another one of those "Red-Pilled" "Alpha" "Pick-up Artist" that gave advice on how to pick up all the wrong kind of women, but the more I researched and read reviews after being recommended the book, the more I understood that it was the answer I was looking for in my life.
The premise of the book breaks down to this; because of the industrial revolution, fathers spend less time at home and therefore boys are raised by their mothers. The boys, then develop an attachment to pleasing the mother. The issue becomes, the boy is raised with a femine figure, and not a masculine figure in their life. The mother, resenting the father's short comings, ends up training the boy to put women above men. Thus, we have had several generations of boys raised by women.
This is a very quick breakdown and I am paraphrasing a lot, but there is also greater detail on how media, school system, and government agencies in the West work towards providing a female dominated society. So how do we break this cycle? Ideally, we do it in a positive rational way. This would be to provide separate schooling programs for boys to be more active in pursuing edicational systems that work for them. Provide and reward more male educators teaching young boys, instead of continuing with a women dominated school system. Allow men to work from home more or provide programs where men can spend more time with their sons. Work on building more communal bonds between grown men through a resurrection of fraternal societies. Change the perception of how men operate in a modern society to leave room for "higher purpose" activities (not religious, just activities where men can pursue their passion without interference from the world around). Allow for men to participate in more physical activities and allot for such time.
But how does one that has a nagging wife, 3 children, a full time job and a mortgage to pay do this without having to gain consensus from the wife he will have ot put more of the burden on to raise the children and the employer where he will put in less time? Maybe, just say screw it and do what you want, it is your lfie? I am having this trouble now and I don't even have half those obligations.
Thinking out loud, maybe it starts off with fraternal orders that have echelons of men all the way down to boys with set "grades" where as you progress through life and learn the ways of masculinity you can the go to a higher grade in which you counsel the younger men. This is probably the best way to mimic the pre-industrial revolution and tribal societies. It is a small start, but worth a shot. This is where men can work together and share their trade and skills with other men via a "cultural center" of sorts directed towards men. It will provide a "societal father" to the fatherless/passive-father boys and also allow men on their journey for higher purpose to learn skills from other men that will hold them accountable. As the order gets tighter bonds and the men within it increase their purpose, the surrounding community grows with it.
I think another thing men can do that may be easier than setting up a society is just create gym groups together. I have worked out with other men before, but it tends to peter off giving the hectic schedules of the modern man. In my gym there are dozens of yoga, Pilates, cardio, or other female oriented classes but I see little in the way of a pure male class. There should be more focus in gyms put on pure male bodybuilding classes that focus on pure muscular development. Although bodybuilding seems ridiculous to many, with overly drugged up contestants dancing around in colorful thongs on stage, I am more referring to just pure natural (or TRT dosage levels) lifting . The joke goes that only men care about other men's muscles, but we know that women much prefer a healthy male figure over an obese/skinny man.
As the community of men grows and succeeds in health, the are then able to grow and succeed in spirit. This will then allow them to embark on their personal journeys which will then lead to a hero's journey when they least expect it.